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How to be Happy.

Smile and Think Happy Thoughts

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It takes more muscles to make a frown, so smile because it is a beautiful thing. It will not only make you feel better, but those around you will be influenced by your positive attitude and will smile back. Spread joy and happiness through your amazing smile. Here are some ways to bring out your glorious smile and make others smile around you: (Left: Image by shoothead via Flickr; Right: Image by nosha via Flickr)

  • Brush your teeth. Nothing beats a sparkling set of white teeth to boost your confidence.
  • Happy thoughts are the key to a happy smile. Make sure you think positive and not let any negative thoughts affect you.
  • A good deed. Share or help someone who needs a shoulder to cry on. Be a reason for their smile. 100 % smile guaranteed.
  • Eat healthy. Avoid food stuff that makes you feel lethargic. A healthy diet of fresh fruits and vegetables leads to healthy and happy lifestyle.
  • Sleep well. Take rest and do not stay up late. Nobody wants to see a grumpy face not even your mirror.

…More at Tips to keep smiling! – Times of India or just learn to be happy by reading this awesome non-fiction book available on Amazon, “Happiness in Seven Steps” by Lee G Lovett.

With these tips at hand flip that frown upside down and smile the biggest smile you can. Think positive and that will surely put and keep a smile on your face. Even I’ll smile a little more and so should you. Get that book, “Happiness in Seven Steps” –it really helps. 

How to be Happy.

Definition of Happiness

A Little Ray of SunshineJoy and happiness is what we all search for, but the real question is what exactly happiness is. Do we all have our own personal definition of happiness that we live by. This article explains what others believe happiness to be and what you should think of happiness being for you in your daily life to achieve happiness. (Image by aussiegall via Flickr)

Mired in this over stimulated environment, we are constantly reminded of our own inadequacy. (Oh, you finally lost those 10 pounds after giving birth six months ago? That’s nice. Gisele did it in two weeks. See this morning’s Google alert.)

Is it any wonder that so many of us devour books on happiness, open our wallets for life coaches and wellness retreats, and generally remain grumpy despite all the things we do have, always chasing that elusive state of “happiness.”

And, what is happiness, anyway?

Happiness: a state of contentment; a pleasurable or satisfying experience.

Although, pleasurable and satisfying experiences sure are nice, I believe the Webster definition doesn’t really set our society up for success. I’d like to go out on a limb here and share my own definition of happiness:

Happiness: a timeless state of contentment due to embracing the control you have over your state of mind.

There are 86,400 seconds in a day. It would be really hard to be in a blissful state of mind each and every second of every day, but we get to choose which seconds define our day, our week and our lives. It is that choice and that control that I believe is true happiness.

Whether it’s a new computer or a new relationship, these external sources, although enjoyable, can distract us from our inner source of happiness — our control over our state of mind.

Happiness is not dependent on what the number on the scale says or whether you get that promotion at work or marry your college crush. Happiness is the ability to recognize and be okay with the fact that you won’t always feel — well — happy. Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes we screw up. Sometimes, truly terrible things happen. If you can allow yourself to experience negative emotions, you will recognize that temporarily feeling bummed out about life’s small and sometimes large disappointments are natural and do not have to permanently distract or define you.

Knowing that you control your happiness and that no one can take it away from you or define it for you leaves you in charge.  One great nonfiction book to read that helps you get to your “happy place” is Happiness in Seven Steps by Lee G Lovett. Available at Amazon or click HERE to order a copy. 

…More at The Craze Behind ‘Happiness’ – Huffington Post

This is what I believe to be the definition of what happiness is and if you choose to believe this definition your life and state of mind will change for the better.

The Path to Health to Happiness

Do It Yourself HappinessHappiness is what we are all searching for on our journey of health to happiness. We want to feel good about ourselves every day if we can. Knowing that there are steps out there that can help us along this path makes things even better. This should bring a chuckle and some happiness to you right away knowing there are tips to get you going fueled with joy and happiness, and here they are. (Image by the half-blood prince via Flickr)

“Top Tips” to happiness that we can follow to start seeing a difference:

Wake Up Happy– As you wake up, take a few moments to become aware of the world around you; feel of the bedding, the quality of the light in the room, the sounds in the house and the sounds outside. Tune in to your breath and prepare yourself for whatever is coming next. Take a minute or two just for yourself. Gaze out of the window and take in the sounds of nature or the city – the world is waking too.

Find Peace – sit quietly for some time each day so that you have the space to pause for long enough to recognize and connect with how you really are. Practice mindfulness meditation is a way of bringing gentle and kindly attention to the moment by moment experience of sensations in the body, emotions and thoughts.  Sometimes the rush of everyday life can force you to  lose touch with yourself, and this in turn means you are less in touch with your children, husband, colleagues, and the environment around you.

Spend time in nature– Our lives are full and complex and giving ourselves time to connect and feel the ground under our feet gives us a place to stand. Step aside from constant doing by giving yourself time to be in nature, by running for the pure joy of running, or by immersing yourself in music.  When we do this we find that we naturally connect in kindly ways with people around us. When we connect with ourselves we are discovering more deeply what it is to be human. It is easy to empathize with and be kind to others when we are in touch with this. We then don’t need a goal or a resolution to make us think of others – it comes naturally

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Mindfulness Meditation – Practice meditation to recognize these moments when our minds are slipping into unhelpful negative habits that we have rehearsed many times in the past. Take some time just for yourself. Follow your breath and settle inside yourself. These are rare moments, time just for you.

Spend more time with family – spending time with people we care about. There is a happiness that goes beyond momentary pleasures. It is an ease that arises within us when we connect with ourselves and our world with care and kindness, and we allow our speech, our choices, our actions in the world to align with this connection and kindness.

Live for the moment – If we have a practice like mindfulness that supports us in recognizing our moment to moment experience, we will be able to spot ourselves falling into old patterns, and so open the possibility of being able to step back, to disentangle ourselves and to take care of ourselves at these difficult times, which in turn helps fend off depression

Giving to others – Small acts of kindness really do help to make a difference in the world. This can be achieved by donating to charity, volunteering or helping an elderly person cross the street.  Research clearly shows us that the good feelings that come from giving arise for both the giver and the receiver. Indeed the giver is the one who gets the biggest boost of good feelings – researchers track this by measuring shifts in serotonin and dopamine in the brain.

Be Kind to Yourself – Kindness isn’t something that we can just offer to others. It isn’t possible to sustain kindness if it is only being offered outwards whilst our own internal environment is filled with criticism and negativity. The kindness can take many forms – allowing ourselves to feel sad can be a deep kindness – particularly when our usual pattern is to berate ourselves for feeling this way; making less demands on ourselves when we are feeling troubled; or seeking out what we need to nourish ourselves like the company of a good friend, or some solitude, or rest, or exercise.

Take up a hobby or learn a new language – Joining new activities support us to see the world in new ways, with fresh eyes. For many, the default can be to stay within our comfort zone. Exploring ways that we can gently push our edges, challenge ourselves is a great way to nudge us towards new possibilities. How we gently challenge ourselves will be different for each of us – it might be a new job, taking on a new hobby, taking a mindfulness course, or volunteering. Strange though it may sound, for some it might involve doing less – deliberately creating spaces that don’t have an agenda, slowing down. 

…More at Ten top tips to happiness – FemaleFirst.co.uk and check out “Happiness In Seven Steps” by Lee G Lovett for a complete guide for achieving happiness.

With these steps at hand you are ready to conquer the world with a new happy attitude that everyone will compliment.